Do you ever feel that now you are pregnant it seems everybody has the right to invade your privacy, give you unsolicited advice and touch you without asking? And I am not just talking about family members or friends, as obtrusive as they maybe, but people you have never even met before!
Here are the 10 things every pregnant woman hopes that she will never have to hear from her family and friends, acquaintances and strangers alike!
#1. Can I touch your tummy?
Why is it, just because you’re pregnant, people think that they can touch or stroke any protruding belly whenever they feel like! If a woman has a nice bum or great pair do people come up out of nowhere for a feel – No they don’t – Keep your hands to yourself!
#2. You look tired!
Of course she looks tired! Walking around carrying extra weight, always wanting to pee all the time, hormones all over the place, only topic of conversation is babies; having babies or raising babies, never being able to find a comfortable position to sleep in, being kicked all through the night… If she wasn’t tired she would be a walking miracle.
#3. Are you going to breast feed?
Breast feeding is a personal choice. There is no right or wrong here. Babies are not disadvantaged in any way or do not develop differently if they are bottle fed or not. Some women can breastfeed and some can’t, some babies take to the breast easily others don’t and it can be very frustrating and even painful for those mums that struggle. As long as the baby is developing as it should, growing as it should and putting on weight as it should either method is fine. Don’t let anyone tell you you are not a good mother because you feed your baby from a bottle .
#4. My word you are huge!
People can be so insensitive sometimes. Pregnant women, on the whole, feel bloated and big anyway, even when they are not. They certainly don’t need to be told over and over how big they are getting. Your tummy gets as big as it needs to correctly incubate your baby so it is born happy and healthy, after all isn’t that what pregnancy is all about.
5. You’re not very big!
Babies come in all sizes and women that do not have big tummies are worried enough about whether everything is going the way it should . One of the women in a our prenatal class was very slight and hardly looked pregnant at all and she was asked so many times if there was anything wrong that she became obsessive and depressed and for no good reason, she gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby.
#6. What are you going to call it?
Naming my baby was a personal thing between the two of us. We kept the names we liked very close to our chest and were not interested in hearing other people’s opinions. We like our kids names and they like them too! That’s all that matters.
#7. My labour took 24 hours with no pain relief!
No pregnant women ever needs to hear about long labour, complications through pregnancy, pain, 36 weeks of morning sickness etc… If you are going to discuss your own pregnancy with someone going through it, highlight the good times. Your glowing skin, how thick your hair became, the way you both talked to the baby every morning, how reassuring and wonderful your midwife or obstetrician was. Keep your horror stories to yourself!
#8. Are you getting the new 4 wheel drive pram with built in change table and bottle warmer!
By the time you have your third child you realize very quickly a pram is a pram is a pram. You really don’t need to spend $1000 just because your friend has one. After all, all the only thing you will ever use it for is getting your baby from A to B. And it is not just prams! Before you go and mortgage the house getting all the things you need for baby do your research and get only what you really need at a price you can afford.
#9. Are you having a boy or a girl?
Why is that the first question anyone asks? What business is it of theirs? Why does everyone think they have the foolproof way of telling if it is a boy or girl. You are carrying high must be a boy, Your wedding ring swings clockwise, must be a girl. You crave sweet not savory, your pee is orange… the list is endless. Basically the only way to find out is by Ultrasound, NIPS, CVS or Amnio. Everything else is just a punt at best!
#10. Have you read the latest research about..?
Pregnant women, especially first time pregnant women, constantly worry that they are not reading enough, researching enough, giving up enough or doing enough, that they are responsible for not giving their unborn baby every opportunity. But the constant barrage of information of what worked or did not work for someone’s sister’s brother-in-law’s first wife is enough to drive any sane person to drink. Please, keep your opinions to yourself!
Picking what you would like to name your child for the rest of their life is no easy task! A name is a defining part of your identity and generally it’s something that sticks with you your whole life. Names create expectations and judgments.
We understand that it can be an overwhelming process so we have put together a few things you should be considering when naming your child:
While Khaleesi may be hugely popular at the moment due to Game of Thrones what will it mean in 15 – 20 years when your child is entering the adult world? Another thing you need to consider when naming your child after a character is that while that character may be beloved this can change as they are fictional!
This was recently demonstrated with the name Atticus. Atticus has recently gone through another spurge in popularity – with many being named after Harper Lee’s character in the famous novel ‘To Kill a Mockingbird.’ However, in the recent release of ‘Go Set a Watchman’ Atticus was revealed to be a racist. This left a number of people recoiling with one couple even going to the effort of renaming their 14-month-old son! Lesson: Choose wisely.
Understandably it can be hard to know if there is going to be a big surge in the name you choose, but popularity can be a nuisance. I’m speaking from experience here. I was born in 1986 and I’m named Jessica – the number one girls name for that year. This has meant all through my school years I had not one, not two, generally not even three people in my year level with that same name! In fact, I think there may have been around 20 – 30 of us in my year level at High School. It was frustrating! So, how do you avoid naming your baby the latest trending name?
Sites like Baby Name Wizard can help. You simply type in the name you are considering and it will shoot out some stats.
While you may think a cute and quirky spelling of a common name sets your child apart from the rest think about the impact it will have on the rest of their life. Do you want them to have to spell their name every time? That would get pretty annoying after awhile! There is also the chance that they may get picked on for being different. So before you name your bub Emahlie, maybe consider if the original spelling of Emily is really that bad.
You may be a unique, quirky person and that’s fantastic, but it is never okay to call your child Awesome as one recent couple did. I mean seriously, awesome?
Some other silly names people have named their child recently are Majestic, Handsome, Savvy and so on. See more silly names people have called their children here.
While you may have the best intentions think about your child’s future. I’m speaking from experience. I went to school with a girl called Precious. Yep, you heard me correct. As you can imagine her name came with a lot of schoolyard taunts and mockery. Who wants to expose their child to that unnecessarily?
Naming your child should be a fun and enjoyable experience for all parents – choose wisely and with your babies future in mind.
Ultrasound in pregnancy (also known as ‘sonograms’ or ‘scans’) can be performed for a variety of reasons. Medical ultrasounds in pregnancy work on the same principle as sonar (used in oceanography to map the sea bed). The technician uses a hand-held ultrasound probe (or ‘transducer’) to generate and receive high frequency sound waves that cannot be heard by the human ear.
Hundreds of sound waves are emitted from the transducer during each scan. These waves are absorbed and bounced back from human tissues, bones and body fluids (all with different densities) to create black and white ultrasound images that look similar to a photographic negative, with black areas indicating liquid mediums (such as amniotic fluid) and grey or white areas indicating denser materials such as tissues and bones.
The sound frequency of ultrasound is measured in megahertz (or MHz). Frequencies used for pregnancy ultrasounds can range from 1.6 to 10 MHz, but are more commonly between 3 and 7.5 MHz.
Generally the lower the frequency, the further (or deeper) the sound waves can penetrate the body’s tissues. Ultrasound waves that create images for visual examination are intermittently ‘pulsed’ to reduce the heating of the body’s tissues (unlike continuous ultrasound therapies that may be used to treat injured muscles and tissues). ‘Diagnostic ultrasounds’ (that create images) tend to require lower intensities than Doppler ultrasound, used to assess blood flow through the cord and placenta and to listen to the baby’s heartbeat.
Ultrasound does not use radiation (like x-rays) and is seen by many caregivers as a non-invasive way to view the unborn baby, uterus and placenta during pregnancy.
The physical effects and research into the safety of ultrasounds are looked at in Ultrasounds in pregnancy are performed by a qualified Sonographer (technologist) or a Sonologist (specialist doctor). In a hospital environment usually the Sonographer performs the examination and the Sonologist in charge of the department interprets the images and writes up the final report.
There are many different ways ultrasound in pregnancy, for various reasons. We perform the following:
Ultrasound technology is often used to listen to an unborn baby’s heartbeat (after 12 weeks of pregnancy). Caregivers can use a hand-held portable doppler (or ‘sonocaid’) that emits sound waves of about 2 MHz of frequency to detect changes in blood flow through the baby’s heart to produce an audible sound. CTG monitors also use ultrasound to continuously record the baby’s heart rate during pregnancy and labour.
Most ultrasounds are conventional 2D (or two-dimensional) images. 2D ultrasound images are made up of a series of thin image ‘slices’, with only one slice being visible at any one time to create a ‘flat’ looking picture. During the late 1990’s, 3D or ‘three-dimensional’ ultrasounds (also known as ‘ultrasound holographs’) started to become available in some ultrasound centers. However, 3D ultrasound machines are extremely expensive and are not widely accessible at this stage.
3D ultrasounds work by taking thousands of images ‘slices’ in a series (called a ‘volume of echoes’). The volumes are then digitally stored and shaded to produce 3 dimensional images of the baby that look more life-like. 4D (or ‘four-dimensional’ images) just means the images can be seen to move in ‘real time’ so the activity of the baby can be studied.
Most 3D ultrasound machines require the operator to hold the transducer steady, while the internal workings of the transducer move at the correct speed to capture each ‘volume’. Other machines can involve the operator manually moving the transducer over the area to capture the volume. However, this requires a good deal of skill and practice so the transducer is kept perfectly steady and images are obtained at the proper rate and angle.
From a medical perspective, 3D/4D ultrasounds are not essential and generally, all the information your caregiver needs can be obtained through a conventional 2D ultrasound. However, the claimed benefits for using 3D/4D machines can include:
Seeing some parts of the baby more clearly and at any angle. For example, better visualising abnormalities such as a heart defect, cleft lip or neural tube defects such as spina bifida. This may help make better plans for the baby’s treatments and care soon after birth. Sometimes an additional 3D ultrasound will be ordered to have a better look at an abnormality that may have been detected with a routine 2D ultrasound.
It’s become increasingly common to find out the gender of your baby before it’s born. It sure takes the guesswork out of knowing what you need before the baby arrives! But how does a gender scan actually work?
At a gender scan, an ultrasound machine (sonogram) transmits high-frequency sound waves through your uterus. The sound waves bounce off your baby and are translated by a computer into an image on a screen, showing your baby’s position and movements.
The first chance you have for a scan is at around 11-13 weeks. The main purpose of this scan is not to determine gender, but to check the likelihood of your baby having Down Syndrome.
This scan will give you the first glimpse of your baby and if the baby is lying on its back, in a profile position, surrounded by amniotic fluid and with its legs wide open it may be possible to get a result from the gender scan.
It is important to understand that the result of a gender scan at 11-13 weeks is usually no more than an “informed guess” by the sonographer (the person carrying out the scan) as at that age the penis and an enlarged clitoris can look the same. In many cases during this early gender scan the penis can be tucked in behind the bottom, which gives the appearance of a girl.
Most women wait for their second scan, an anomaly scan or baby health check scan as an opportunity for a gender scan. This scan is carried out at around 18-21 weeks.
If you want to know the sex of your baby, you should ask your sonographer during the scan to do a gender scan for you. It is best to ask them at the beginning of the scan so that they are aware that they need to check.
It is important to be aware that it is not possible for your sonographer to be 100% certain about your baby’s sex. For example, if your baby is lying in an awkward position, it may be difficult, or impossible, to tell whether your baby is male or female.
If you can’t wait until your 20 week scan, but are over 16 weeks, call us at Early Image where gender scans are our specialty. Our sonographers will take all the time they need to make sure that baby is in exactly the right position before making any determination.